Finding Meaning & Success as a Spa Owner with Tanya Dalton

Tanya Dalton
Tanya Dalton

 

 

Ready to find meaning and success as a Spa Owner? This article is taken from an interview with the incredible Tonya Dalton. Tanya Dalton is a best-selling author, speaker, nationally recognized productivity expert, and serves as a growth strategist for female leaders. Our conversation is based on her second book, On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success.

 

Tanya Dalton is an incredible and approachable mentor. While I love the whole idea of this book, I especially love the four steps, the reflection, the projection, the action, and then my favorite, the alteration. Because we write plans down but, guess what, if 2020 and 2021 have taught us nothing, you have to be ready to totally change your game plan.

 

2020 Lessons

If we are holding our plans so tightly in our fist, they don’t have any room to grow or evolve or shift. As our life grows and evolves our plan needs to change. It’s really about making plans and then having an open palm that we hold them in that allows grace. Life is, well life is messy.  I think all that perfection that we see on Instagram and Pinterest does us a disservice. When really we’re all running the same race and we’re so busy looking at our own feet. We don’t even notice the woman next to us who’s panting away right next to us doing our best to keep up right alongside of us.- Tanya Dalton

 

How to Turn Regret Into Resilience

I love that you’re allowing us to acknowledge that whatever we went through, is how we got to where we are today. And what we are facing today is gonna allow us to a better future. – Ramona Rice

When we face regrets or setbacks at times we don’t want to talk about it because it’s hurtful. It makes us upset, we get angry or irritated. We can feel like we’ve gotten off track. But, I can tell you, it’s in the moments where you have regret, where you have had trauma, where you had the failures, that is the most fertile ground of all. – Tanya Dalton

 

Imposter Syndrome

When you really dive into imposter syndrome.  (Something a lot of entrepreneur podcasts and people talk about)  I love your perspective. You reminded me that a lot of times imposter syndrome makes us want to hide from success. We deliberately use it. We say “I can’t do that.”   I just had three of my Spapreneurs® here in the office. One of them is an incredible and such an intelligent woman. And she is going to rock what her next step what she’s doing. But, she kept adding things to her to do list. She kept saying “I need to do this and this.”  And I explained to her you don’t need to do any of that stuff.  You just need to put it out there.  –Ramona Rice

The only difference between a woman who dreams of being a writer, and the author of your favorite book is at some point along the way, the author chose to stop allowing self doubt to creep into her narrative, and start calling herself a writer and actually did the work of writing. – Tanya Dalton

 

Choosing Your Own Title

We get to choose our identity. We get to choose how other people perceive us. And that’s the truth because people believe what we show them. So if we show them us saying “I’m just a small business owner. I just have this little spa.” We are defining ourselves as someone small as someone who’s not really serious. If instead we roll our shoulders back, we hold our chin up, and we say “Yes, I make a difference in the lives of the women who come into my spa. I build confidence. I am a proud spa owner because I am making a difference.”

Start seeing yourself as something bigger and that that really does start with how we define ourselves how we choose to describe ourselves in our bio, in our websites, in our conversations. It shows itself in the interactions that we have with our community members. People will call you whatever you choose. So why not call yourself as you want to be called?  – Tanya Dalton

 

The 5th “Why?”

We ask ourselves, like why do I feel this way? Why do I feel like a failure? Why do I feel why am I angry?  And we give ourselves that first why? And that’s it just that surface level? It’s such a shallow little dive, and you’re not going to get the real answer, you got to go a little bit deeper. I call it The 5th “Why?”

Ask yourself why? But, with each answer ask “Why” again.  (For example: Why am I angry? > Because my husband did this > Why Does that make me angry? Etc.)  It gets you to that root cause. And I think that’s what’s really important that first why is so shallow, and you’re not really going to get the real answer you need. We ask why again, a second time you ask why again, a third time and then a fourth time and a fifth time. And that’s deep enough that you start to say “Oh, I’m seeing the pattern, I see what I see where this comes from.”

When we understand where our emotions come from,  we can pull it up. We can give it to the light and really shift how our thinking works. Because a lot of times those those are really our limiting beliefs. We’re getting to the root of what’s limiting us what is holding us back. And when we allow it to come to light, we’re able to shift it and we’re able to change it.  -Tanya Dalton

 

On Purpose

Tanya’s book On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success is in bookshelves right now! There’s no excuse not to get this information. You can choose to be ignorant or you can choose to be educated. That’s up to you Spapreneurs®.  This book is worth your time. I can promise you.

 

 

 

 

Resources Mentioned:

On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success

InkWell Planners

Spapreneur ® Alliance